little sister needs help

xj9701

I am sorry I can't type in Chinese, but still I need help from all of you nice sisters!

I have a little sister who is preparing the examination for graduate students(kao yan). But recently her boyfriend said that he can't have a girlfriend who is better than him, and he gave her two choices, one is to break up , another is to give up the examination. After several quarrels, my sister want to give the examination up for him, but she is very sad and she really don't want to give up both.

From my opinion, they are too young to take so serious choice. Both boy and girl should support each other instead of hurting each other in the intimate relationship.But young boy always think about themselves. As a old sister, I want to do something for them, to tell my sister how to communicate with her boyfriend to get what she wants and to persuade the boy think more for others and more for the future. But I am afraid I will react too strongly to hurt both of them, so  I want to get some suggestions from you, how can I help my sister well? Or you can tell me what's your opion for that, if she is you, or your sister?

Thank you in advance!

[ 本帖最后由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 17:00 编辑 ]

helena2007

原帖由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 16:16 发表
I am sorry I can't type in Chinese, but still I need help from all of you nice sisters!

I have a little sister who is preparing the examination for graduate students(kao yan). But recently her boyfriend said that he can't have a girlfriend who is better than him, and he gave her two choices, one is to break up , another is to give up the examination. After several quarrels, my sister want to givethe examination up for him, but she is very sad and she really don't want to give up both.

From my opinion, they are too young to take so serious choice. Both boy and girl should support each other instead of hurting each other in the intimate relationship.But young boy always think about themselves. As a old sister, I want to do something for them, to tell my sister how to communicate with her boyfriend to get what she wants and to persuade the boy think more for others and more for the future. But I am afraid I will react too strongly to hurt both of them, so  I want to get some suggestions from you, how can I help my sister well? Or you can tell me what's your opion for that, if she is you, or your sister?

Thank you in advance!

无语了。。。:o :o

小猫种鱼

直接甩
有什么好沟通的
现在按他的旨意做，以后还按不按，以后就没有两难选择了么
想让自己跟个变态郁闷一辈子么
再说了，对心理有问题的，妥协不是解决办法，妥协了也还会有其他矛盾，走不远的！

xj9701

原帖由 小猫种鱼 于 2007-10-22 16:28 发表
直接甩
有什么好沟通的
现在按他的旨意做，以后还按不按，以后就没有两难选择了么
想让自己跟个变态郁闷一辈子么
再说了，对心理有问题的，妥协不是解决办法，妥协了也还会有其他矛盾，走不远的！

All of you are much more angry than me!$握手$

[ 本帖最后由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 17:01 编辑 ]

表BS偶

哈哈  楼主英文不错啊  赞一个

为什么我就想找个比我强的MM啊 哎。。。。   好多男的都大男子主义


还有  就是 分手吧    男人么 再找好了 怕啥 哈哈

Buttermilch虎牙

分手贝。这么狭隘的男人要来何用。这次是以这个借口分手，保不定下次又是什么了$angry
把握自己比把握别人更可靠 :cool:

polarbear88

这样男的, 以后怎么过啊~~事事不能出头.太可怕了..

可以先来点软的, 让你妹妹花言巧语说服他, 以后慢慢改造.. 不过费时费力, 不讨好...

rosamagnolia

最好分手吧