little sister needs help
I am sorry I can't type in Chinese, but still I need help from all of you nice sisters!I have a little sister who is preparing the examination for graduate students(kao yan). But recently her boyfriend said that he can't have a girlfriend who is better than him, and he gave her two choices, one is to break up , another is to give up the examination. After several quarrels, my sister want to give the examination up for him, but she is very sad and she really don't want to give up both.
From my opinion, they are too young to take so serious choice. Both boy and girl should support each other instead of hurting each other in the intimate relationship.But young boy always think about themselves. As a old sister, I want to do something for them, to tell my sister how to communicate with her boyfriend to get what she wants and to persuade the boy think more for others and more for the future. But I am afraid I will react too strongly to hurt both of them, soI want to get some suggestions from you, how can I help my sister well? Or you can tell me what's your opion for that, if she is you, or your sister?
Thank you in advance!
[ 本帖最后由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 17:00 编辑 ] 原帖由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 16:16 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
I am sorry I can't type in Chinese, but still I need help from all of you nice sisters!
I have a little sister who is preparing the examination for graduate students(kao yan). But recently her boyfriend said that he can't have a girlfriend who is better than him, and he gave her two choices, one is to break up , another is to give up the examination. After several quarrels, my sister want to givethe examination up for him, but she is very sad and she really don't want to give up both.
From my opinion, they are too young to take so serious choice. Both boy and girl should support each other instead of hurting each other in the intimate relationship.But young boy always think about themselves. As a old sister, I want to do something for them, to tell my sister how to communicate with her boyfriend to get what she wants and to persuade the boy think more for others and more for the future. But I am afraid I will react too strongly to hurt both of them, soI want to get some suggestions from you, how can I help my sister well? Or you can tell me what's your opion for that, if she is you, or your sister?
Thank you in advance!
无语了。。。:o :o 直接甩
有什么好沟通的
现在按他的旨意做，以后还按不按，以后就没有两难选择了么
想让自己跟个变态郁闷一辈子么
再说了，对心理有问题的，妥协不是解决办法，妥协了也还会有其他矛盾，走不远的！ 原帖由 小猫种鱼 于 2007-10-22 16:28 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
直接甩
有什么好沟通的
现在按他的旨意做，以后还按不按，以后就没有两难选择了么
想让自己跟个变态郁闷一辈子么
再说了，对心理有问题的，妥协不是解决办法，妥协了也还会有其他矛盾，走不远的！
All of you are much more angry than me!$握手$
[ 本帖最后由 xj9701 于 2007-10-22 17:01 编辑 ] 哈哈楼主英文不错啊赞一个
为什么我就想找个比我强的MM啊 哎。。。。 好多男的都大男子主义
还有就是 分手吧 男人么 再找好了 怕啥 哈哈 分手贝。这么狭隘的男人要来何用。这次是以这个借口分手，保不定下次又是什么了$angry
把握自己比把握别人更可靠 :cool: 这样男的, 以后怎么过啊~~事事不能出头.太可怕了..
可以先来点软的, 让你妹妹花言巧语说服他, 以后慢慢改造.. 不过费时费力, 不讨好... 最好分手吧 如果这样，德国总理该不该离婚啊。$怒吼$ 希拉莉也该踹了她的比尔。 分手吧。
年轻的她，现在应该多为自己打算，不应该为了他放弃深造。
自私的他，这种大男人的思维很难改变的，除非她能永远忍受，否则迟早会分手。
那一刻，他不会感激她，而她会后悔曾经为了他而放弃了前途。
$郁闷$ 不过，现在的她，估计劝也白劝。 ask her to choose by herself, what is more important for her.
unless she comes to the idea herself, she won't be persuaded. 真有这样的男人呀。又长见识了。$m12$
这么小气的男人，那个女人能忍受。$m9$ 原帖由 阳光心情 于 2007-10-23 12:09 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
分手吧。
年轻的她，现在应该多为自己打算，不应该为了他放弃深造。
自私的他，这种大男人的思维很难改变的，除非她能永远忍受，否则迟早会分手。
那一刻，他不会感激她，而她会后悔曾经为了他而放弃了前 ...
是啊，妹妹太小了，21岁，又是初恋，女孩子这时候总是无原则地为男孩子放弃很多。而男孩子哪懂得珍惜女孩为他们的付出。
我想现在直接找那个男孩子谈谈了，毕竟21岁的男孩子，也许还有改变的余地，我总相信，如果年轻的时候能被人指点一下，有的时候会豁然开朗。但是lg不允许，说我多管闲事，这样的垃圾男还不如跟表妹分手算了。
可是，我不愿表妹那么痛苦，并且如果这样放弃下去，将来还不知道被欺负成什么样。 原帖由 表BS偶 于 2007-10-22 16:46 发表 http://dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
哈哈楼主英文不错啊赞一个
为什么我就想找个比我强的MM啊 哎。。。。 好多男的都大男子主义
还有就是 分手吧 男人么 再找好了 怕啥 哈哈
我现在对时态和单复数很敏感，看lz的英文看得有点难受$汗$
这个女孩子（其实任何人）做任何决定都应该是为自己做，而不是为别人做。假如她觉得考研更重要，就考研；假如她觉得男朋友更重要，就放弃考研。但千万不能是为了男朋友做这个决定，而是为了自己。 原帖由 万里挑一 于 2007-10-23 13:02 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
我现在对时态和单复数很敏感，看lz的英文看得有点难受$汗$
这个女孩子（其实任何人）做任何决定都应该是为自己做，而不是为别人做。假如她觉得考研更重要，就考研；假如她觉得男朋友更重要，就放弃考研。 ...
说得很对啊，mm好强，确实可以万里挑一！敢问结婚了没有？
[ 本帖最后由 xj9701 于 2007-10-23 13:20 编辑 ] 原帖由 xj9701 于 2007-10-23 13:19 发表 http://dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
说得很对啊，mm好强，确实可以万里挑一！敢问结婚了没有？
表误会！我叫万里挑一是因为血型稀有自嘲而已$汗$ 啊？啥血型？ RH阴性AB型。$m22$ $m22$ $m22$ 前途是自己的。
那个男人就应为这点破事情就放弃他们的感情，证明在这男的心里这感情也没啥地位 是我，觉不放弃考研。毕竟这个东西是完全自己的。男友，如果不能接受，那他还有什么资格做男友。何况怎么保证这一辈子都比男的差。要是男的没工作，自己难不成还要上街乞讨也不能上班。什么年代，这种男的，直接拉闸，放狗。。。。
有点过分哈，因为觉得太不可思议。 引申一下：
如果两个都没工作，你妹妹不许比她bf先找到工作，找到了不许找得比她bf好，工作了不许升职快过bf，工资加得不许多过她bf。一旦发现，要么分手（离婚）．
$汗$
$汗$ Haha
Being a master student or Ph.D student does not mean '''''better''''''.
[ 本帖最后由 sunbar 于 2007-10-28 14:45 编辑 ] 原帖由 Blüte 于 2007-10-23 14:56 发表 http://dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
RH阴性AB型。$m22$ $m22$ $m22$
比介个稍好一点:cool: :(
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