为自己想的多一点,回国.
为孩子想的多一点,留下来.
要你真的忍心,最好的方法是孩子留下来,你回去!
人生有很多十字路口,谁也不能给你决定,不过,相信未来吧,只要还活着就有希望-大雨过后就是晴天!
反正不管怎么样孩子是一定要跟着妈妈的，爸爸已经不是很负责人了，如果你再把他们扔给别人是很不可行的一件事， 所以不管怎么样一定带着孩子。$考虑$ $考虑$
原帖由 ithillad 于 2008-10-4 14:40 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
这不是浮躁和浅薄是传统吧 $考虑$
我是想说，国内现在很多男的都很浮躁和浅薄，都想找年轻漂亮的，而且还想找好几个，后面那句是另外一句了。中间应该用句号的。
现在还是留在德国吧。在德国找份工作。同时也要抚养费。回国是很好，但是想起三个孩子，实在是太艰难。不过叹一声，德国男人怎么这么不重情义？孩子也是他的呢。唉。
sorry right now I can't type Chinese with this computer.
I knew three Germen women who have children with Americans. All of them choose to live in Germany now. I aksed them about the children's costs. They told me that the German government will pay them first and later the government will get the money back from American ex-husabands. I think it doesn't matter where you will live in the future. As long as the divorce paper says, your husband has to pay for the children's cost every month, he has to pay. If not, you can always go to the governemnt to get the money.
As you have three children, it is almost impossible for you to work in Germany, even for a half-day work. Although in Germany the school system is good, parents still have huge responsibilities to check children's homework, to cook for them every day, to pick them up from school, to send them to the free-time activities. If you can not help them on the homework, mostly there is also very little chance for them later to be able to go to the college. Besides, the free-time activities, like sports, music, or other hobby groups also cost a lot. If you don't have a job here, children can't enjoy these activities either.
The only difference is, in Germany, you won't be starved to death. But life won't be any easier. If you don't have a good mood, children will suffer too. In China, you may encounter difficulties later, but there are always families and friends ready to help. Besides, if you also have a successful career, you won't feel life so empty. If you enjoy life in China, childen will enjoy too, as they are still small, it is still easier for them to be used to the life there. Any way, when children grow up, they can still choose to come back to Germany as they like. As to you, I don't think a new marriage is important to you any more. You can always try to fall in love with someone, but no need to expect any new marriage. No matter Chinese men or German men, they all have difficulties to deal with other men's children.
这种情况还是留德国比较好。
目前,留在德国,你就一要饭的,说得不好听的话,既没国籍,也没事业,前途不保
而留在中国呢,你有事业和家庭的双重支撑,还会有抚养费,自己亲生的不抚养的还是很少见的
假如中国对孩子有歧视,德国也同样
我上高中的时候,三十年前,学校里有好几个混血儿,都挺厉害的,他们还欺负别人呢
孩子当中总是有弱有强,以强凌弱,只要孩子自己强,别人欺负不着
在德国,你是人下人,靠政府靠抚养费生活,而且抚养费也要修改得对前妻很苛刻了
在中国,你是有产阶级,还有自己的事业,何必丢了西瓜捡芝麻
原帖由 Eurochina 于 2008-10-4 15:19 发表 http://www.dolc.de/forum/images/common/back.gif
sorry right now I can't type Chinese with this computer.
I knew three Germen women who have children with Americans. All of them choose to live in Germany now. I aksed them about the children's cos ...
说得真好$握手$
我想问一下楼主,养育三个孩子,现在是什么水平了?
也就是说,在哪个城市,每月要多少钱才能应付?
make them one for Real schule,one for FH, and the lastfor Uni,
After 20 Years u can evaluate the Germany education system